Are you a glass half-full or a glass half-empty kinda person?
If you’ve read any of my previous posts you will know that I often treat my blog like the confessional box. My confession for today …and I’m going to whisper it … is … although I’m a life coach, I can sometimes be very negative.
There, I said it.
And now I feel terrible.
You see how that works? Negative thoughts and feelings attract and create more negative feelings. The Law of Attraction is real which is actually a massive relief because applying it’s principles is how you get out of your negative vibe and into a positive one.
This is a lesson I learned from my dishwasher yesterday. Yes, I said dishwasher … the Universe works in mysterious ways.
HOW MY DISHWASHER taught me a lesson
I don’t know how it is in your house but in mine the dishwasher is used as something of a proxy battleground. No-one likes to load it, no-one likes to unload it and offering to carry out these simple tasks can be used as a pretty valuable bargaining currency. It’s amazing to watch the fevered negotiating that takes place when someone realizes it’s their turn tonight and I’m not ashamed to admit that I’ve used it to score Halloween candy from my children in the past. Nope. No shame there.
I was in the middle of unloading the dishwasher yesterday and caught myself having a really good moan. It was something along the lines of … ugh this is the worst job EVER … why do the knives and forks always get stuck … there are so many dishes today, we need to start eating sandwiches for dinner … etc etc You get the idea. I was really getting into it.
And then I stopped myself.
WE BECOME OUR THOUGHTS
The more I complained the worse I felt. Have you ever felt like that? Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of a really good moan and just thought ‘what am I doing?’ It’s so easy to get trapped in a cycle of negativity. This is really dangerous to our state of mind because we very easily become our thoughts. When you tell yourself that everything is miserable over and over you start to really believe it. The moaning is not a healthy process that helps you get your bad feelings off your chest, it often just confirms the negativity and makes you feel worse.
THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING
Sometimes you just have to hit the pause button on a negative outburst and get a little bit of perspective. In the middle of my dishwasher rant I started to think about a time eighteen months ago when I really hurt my back. It was a horrible time. I couldn’t do much at all and it was a real test of my patience.
Instead of wallowing in how bad I felt I reminded myself that at least I was able to unload the dishwasher. It was just a small thought but it’s impact was large. I instantly began to feel a lot better. I just needed to break the negativity for long enough to get some perspective and see a more positive picture.
Negativity is a thief. It whispers in your ear and steals your sense of contentment.
IT’S A GIRL THING
How many times have you looked at your face or your body and started to find faults? I know I have done this many times. It’s not a trait exclusive to women but I do feel that we can be particularly picky and destructive when it comes to our appearance. When I look in the mirror and start down this road I am reminded of the fabulous Caitlin Moran and her posthumous advice to her daughter:
“Stay at peace with your body. While it’s healthy, never think of it as a problem or a failure. Pat your legs occasionally and thank them for being able to run.”
Positive thinking and being thankful go hand in hand. A good way to turn negative thoughts into positive ones is to count your blessings. Once you start to remind yourself about the good things in your life it’s hard to keep on feeling miserable. Like attracts like and the more positive vibes you create and give out, the more good feelings you get back and so on.
LIFE CHANGING HABITS
Do you encourage yourself to have positive daily habits? Do you actively engage in positive thinking?
Do you make an effort to sleep well and to wake up to a great morning routine? Do you moan about missing out or do you chase your goals down and make your desires real?
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I want your glass to always be half-full.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jackie is a life coach specializing in Women’s Wellness. Read more about her journey HERE and sign up in the side bar to access her free health and wellness downloads.