The Power of Positive Thinking

Are you a glass half-full or a glass half-empty kinda person?

If you’ve read any of my previous posts you will know that I often treat my blog like the confessional box. My confession for today …and I’m going to whisper it … is … although I’m a life coach, I can sometimes be very negative.

There, I said it.

And now I feel terrible.

You see how that works? Negative thoughts and feelings attract and create more negative feelings. The Law of Attraction is real which is actually a massive relief because applying it’s principles is how you get out of your negative vibe and into a positive one.

This is a lesson I learned from my dishwasher yesterday. Yes, I said dishwasher … the Universe works in mysterious ways.

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The Three Negative Forms of Anger And How To Manage Them

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It’s good to get angry.

Are you surprised by that statement? Don’t be.

Anger is a primal reaction to something you feel is wrong or harmful. It can play an important role in your defense mechanism and can also motivate you to take positive action. Everyone gets angry sometimes and it is not only a normal emotion but a useful one too. It is perfectly possible for anger to be a positive energy when it is controlled and channeled positively.

But what happens when anger isn’t used positively?

Feelings of anger can vary in their intensity from mild frustration to extreme aggression. How you react to a certain situation may be completely different from the way someone else reacts and this is ok. But if the form of anger and/or reaction to it becomes abnormal it can become damaging to your mind, relationships, self-esteem, work life and physical well-being.

Whether you are reading this because you feel that your relationship with anger is out of step or because you want to help someone close to you, I’m here to tell you that anger can be managed.

I’m going to say that again.

ANGER CAN BE MANAGED

There a number of strategies you can use to manage your feelings to a level that is acceptable to yourself and others. I’m a firm believer in the idea that if something isn’t working you don’t need to throw it away and give up, you just need the right tools to fix it. That’s why I love my job as a life coach. I’m here to empower you and give you the tools you need.

THE THREE NEGATIVE FORMS OF ANGER

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EXCESSIVE DESTRUCTIVE ANGER (EDA)

SUPPRESSED ANGER / ANGER AVOIDANCE (SA)

HOLDING ON TO ANGER / INABILITY TO RELEASE ANGER / LATENT ANGER (LA)

 

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How To Make A Vision Board

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I am a natural born cynic.

I have been pretty skeptical of anything too ‘out there’ in the past but I am also the survivor of an acrimonious divorce and I can say with complete conviction that there’s nothing quite like a life-changing event to both broaden your mind and sharpen your focus. I’ve been using visualization and manifestation for some time now and the idea of a vision board makes perfect sense to me.

If you feel uneasy with the idea of visualization and find it all a bit woo-woo I get it … But I’d like to make you think again.

Hear me out.

PSSST … I NEED TO TELL YOU A SECRET …

The Law of Attraction is a philosophy based on the idea that like attracts like. Positive thoughts attract positive outcomes and similarly negative thoughts attract negative outcomes. Rhonda Byrne wrote about this in her wonderful bestselling novel The Secret (link below) and following this dream/vision boards have become incredibly popular.

It isn’t a new concept though.

I’ve been using visual mind mapping techniques  for around twenty years and I know I’m not the only one. I used this method as a teacher with my special needs visual learners to help them access the curriculum. I have a close friend who has always used mind mapping techniques in corporate meetings to set company targets. I have also used visual mapping and collaging to set and manifest my goals.

The concept of vision boards has been somewhat hijacked of late however. Groups have been springing up everywhere, cutting and pasting with all their might and numerous articles have been written about how to create the perfect vision board. Unfortunately, I am hearing time and time again that vision boards are not working. This is disappointing and frustrating for a lot of people who thought they were getting what they needed.

I have to tell you that a lot of what I have read, heard and seen about vision boards is total trash. If you think that just sticking pictures onto a piece of paper is going to change your life you have been misled.

I’m sorry.

It’s a harsh truth, but it’s a truth nonetheless.

Creating a vision board is a process. It is not an intellectual exercise or just a pleasant craft activity.  It requires  thought, intention and an open spirit. It requires  you to be all in.

Are you all in?

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