Health Round-Up: June

You may have noticed that I’ve been a little MIA recently. Don’t worry … I have a good reason. I’ve been studying for exams and home schooling my 9 year old son and let me tell you, this combination is not for the faint hearted!

This month I’ve decided to try something new on the blog and so this post is a health round-up for June.  I’ve been doing several things to keep healthy and sane this past month and believe me, it hasn’t been easy. Scheduling lessons, organizing home-school activities and keeping my head in the books has run me ragged and I’ve felt more than ever how important it is to focus on my health and make sure I look after my body and mind. Because of this, I thought that there may be some of you out there in need of a little inspiration too.

So here you are. Here are my top health tips for June. I hope you will find something you like.

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The Power of Positive Thinking

Are you a glass half-full or a glass half-empty kinda person?

If you’ve read any of my previous posts you will know that I often treat my blog like the confessional box. My confession for today …and I’m going to whisper it … is … although I’m a life coach, I can sometimes be very negative.

There, I said it.

And now I feel terrible.

You see how that works? Negative thoughts and feelings attract and create more negative feelings. The Law of Attraction is real which is actually a massive relief because applying it’s principles is how you get out of your negative vibe and into a positive one.

This is a lesson I learned from my dishwasher yesterday. Yes, I said dishwasher … the Universe works in mysterious ways.

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The Three Negative Forms of Anger And How To Manage Them

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It’s good to get angry.

Are you surprised by that statement? Don’t be.

Anger is a primal reaction to something you feel is wrong or harmful. It can play an important role in your defense mechanism and can also motivate you to take positive action. Everyone gets angry sometimes and it is not only a normal emotion but a useful one too. It is perfectly possible for anger to be a positive energy when it is controlled and channeled positively.

But what happens when anger isn’t used positively?

Feelings of anger can vary in their intensity from mild frustration to extreme aggression. How you react to a certain situation may be completely different from the way someone else reacts and this is ok. But if the form of anger and/or reaction to it becomes abnormal it can become damaging to your mind, relationships, self-esteem, work life and physical well-being.

Whether you are reading this because you feel that your relationship with anger is out of step or because you want to help someone close to you, I’m here to tell you that anger can be managed.

I’m going to say that again.

ANGER CAN BE MANAGED

There a number of strategies you can use to manage your feelings to a level that is acceptable to yourself and others. I’m a firm believer in the idea that if something isn’t working you don’t need to throw it away and give up, you just need the right tools to fix it. That’s why I love my job as a life coach. I’m here to empower you and give you the tools you need.

THE THREE NEGATIVE FORMS OF ANGER

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EXCESSIVE DESTRUCTIVE ANGER (EDA)

SUPPRESSED ANGER / ANGER AVOIDANCE (SA)

HOLDING ON TO ANGER / INABILITY TO RELEASE ANGER / LATENT ANGER (LA)

 

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How To Make A Vision Board

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I am a natural born cynic.

I have been pretty skeptical of anything too ‘out there’ in the past but I am also the survivor of an acrimonious divorce and I can say with complete conviction that there’s nothing quite like a life-changing event to both broaden your mind and sharpen your focus. I’ve been using visualization and manifestation for some time now and the idea of a vision board makes perfect sense to me.

If you feel uneasy with the idea of visualization and find it all a bit woo-woo I get it … But I’d like to make you think again.

Hear me out.

PSSST … I NEED TO TELL YOU A SECRET …

The Law of Attraction is a philosophy based on the idea that like attracts like. Positive thoughts attract positive outcomes and similarly negative thoughts attract negative outcomes. Rhonda Byrne wrote about this in her wonderful bestselling novel The Secret (link below) and following this dream/vision boards have become incredibly popular.

It isn’t a new concept though.

I’ve been using visual mind mapping techniques  for around twenty years and I know I’m not the only one. I used this method as a teacher with my special needs visual learners to help them access the curriculum. I have a close friend who has always used mind mapping techniques in corporate meetings to set company targets. I have also used visual mapping and collaging to set and manifest my goals.

The concept of vision boards has been somewhat hijacked of late however. Groups have been springing up everywhere, cutting and pasting with all their might and numerous articles have been written about how to create the perfect vision board. Unfortunately, I am hearing time and time again that vision boards are not working. This is disappointing and frustrating for a lot of people who thought they were getting what they needed.

I have to tell you that a lot of what I have read, heard and seen about vision boards is total trash. If you think that just sticking pictures onto a piece of paper is going to change your life you have been misled.

I’m sorry.

It’s a harsh truth, but it’s a truth nonetheless.

Creating a vision board is a process. It is not an intellectual exercise or just a pleasant craft activity.  It requires  thought, intention and an open spirit. It requires  you to be all in.

Are you all in?

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Why I Never Make New Year’s Resolutions Anymore

 

When it comes to making lame New Year’s Resolutions I deserve an award.

I’ve come up with some really spectacular examples in my time from the oh-so-predictable; (exercise more) to the ridiculous; (eat less cheese), yes in 2009 that really was high on my agenda – don’t ask!

My confession this week is that I’ve never kept a single one of my New Year’s resolutions.

Not. One.

Ever.

The problem is that deep down I don’t believe that New Year’s Resolutions really work and here’s why.

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Having A Bad Day? It’s Your Own Fault

I’m having a bad week.

I updated my website and lost my two latest blog posts and a whole page of stuff I was working on. Hours of writing and research gone in an instant.

If you want to read my blog post: Six Smart Tips To Enjoying Stress Free Holidays, forget it, it’s lost in the interweb ether somewhere. Want to know Why Zoning Out Is Important? Well you can’t – that blog post doesn’t exist anymore.

You know that horrible sick feeling you get when something has gone completely and catastrophically wrong? That’s how I felt. For a few moments I wanted to throw things at the wall and then curl up on my bed eating cheesecake … basically an adult tantrum.

But I didn’t.  And here’s why.

I read about something really interesting recently called the 90-10 percent rule and it gave me a huge wake-up call. This rule relies on the assumption that out of all the things that happen in your life on a daily basis, you only really have control of 10%.

Think about that for a minute.

Here’s a story.

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How I Learned To Focus: Stop Multi-tasking

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Do you ever have that feeling that the world just moves too fast?

Don’t get me wrong, I think that Technology is great but there are days when I feel that I am surgically attached to my phone and am a constantly relapsing Facebook addict. Do you know what I mean?

I was talking to a friend of mine a little while back via Skype. She had her laptop on the kitchen bench while she was cooking. She was also answering text messages every now and then on her phone and shouting out help to her 7 year old who was doing homework at the kitchen table …. and this seemed perfectly normal to me until I really stopped to think about it.

What’s going on?

When did our lives become this mass multi-tasking operation? Who says that we have to be a master of all things and available for action 24/7?

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New Mindset: New You. How Fight Club Can Change Your Life.

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I used to hate Mondays. No, I mean, REALLY hate Mondays. Actually it wasn’t just Mondays, I used to get that sinking feeling during Sunday evenings too. I just couldn’t seem to get my start-of-the-week sparkle on. Do you know what I’m talking about? It is a truly miserable feeling and a terrible way to start your week.

Then something changed.

I watched the movie Fight Club.

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Learn How To Set Goals And Stick To Them

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Goals are tricky little suckers aren’t they?

Somewhere between the household chores and driving the kids around and work and visiting family and friends; somewhere in there, you have hopes and dreams but they always seem a little out of reach. You can’t quite focus on them and so instead they sit in your peripheral vision, disappearing like cloud castles in the air.

I was having dinner at a friend’s house a while ago and it was the point in the evening when everyone has had too much wine and too much dessert. You know what I’m talking about. That time when a relaxed, winey stillness comes over the conversation and you finally get past the small talk and into the good stuff.

‘I always wanted to travel’ my friend said (to no-one in particular.) This got my attention as I have lived in 6 different countries since the age of twenty one.

‘Why haven’t you?’ I asked.

And then it came. The golden reply I could see from a mile away: 

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