Why I Never Make New Year’s Resolutions Anymore

 

When it comes to making lame New Year’s Resolutions I deserve an award.

I’ve come up with some really spectacular examples in my time from the oh-so-predictable; (exercise more) to the ridiculous; (eat less cheese), yes in 2009 that really was high on my agenda – don’t ask!

My confession this week is that I’ve never kept a single one of my New Year’s resolutions.

Not. One.

Ever.

The problem is that deep down I don’t believe that New Year’s Resolutions really work and here’s why.

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Having A Bad Day? It’s Your Own Fault

I’m having a bad week.

I updated my website and lost my two latest blog posts and a whole page of stuff I was working on. Hours of writing and research gone in an instant.

If you want to read my blog post: Six Smart Tips To Enjoying Stress Free Holidays, forget it, it’s lost in the interweb ether somewhere. Want to know Why Zoning Out Is Important? Well you can’t – that blog post doesn’t exist anymore.

You know that horrible sick feeling you get when something has gone completely and catastrophically wrong? That’s how I felt. For a few moments I wanted to throw things at the wall and then curl up on my bed eating cheesecake … basically an adult tantrum.

But I didn’t.  And here’s why.

I read about something really interesting recently called the 90-10 percent rule and it gave me a huge wake-up call. This rule relies on the assumption that out of all the things that happen in your life on a daily basis, you only really have control of 10%.

Think about that for a minute.

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6 Reasons Why Your Stomach Is Bloated

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What is the one question every woman with belly bloat dreads hearing?

If you suffer from stomach bloating, you will instantly know the answer to this question.

Let me tell you a story.

I used to regularly watch my son at his tennis lesson. One particular time, I’d met a friend for lunch and we were late to the lesson so we had to stand by the side as all of the benches were taken. I was chatting away to my friend when all of a sudden I felt a tug at my elbow. It was a woman about the same age as me and she was pointing at her seat. “Would you like to sit down’ she said. I was kinda confused. I declined her kind offer and explained that I was with my friend and we were happy to stand. ‘Oh, ok, I just thought I’d ask since you are pregnant’ she replied.

What?

Seriously?

I looked at my friend and then back at the woman. ‘I’m not pregnant’ I replied.

And there you have it. How to ruin someone’s day with one sentence. On behalf of my fellow women belly-bloat sufferers I would like to state something for the record. If you are a serial pregnancy-asker, please stop. Don’t ask unless you are 100% sure. Don’t offer us your seat, don’t whisper ‘when is it due’ or ‘congratulations’ with a wink and please, please do not pat our tummies with a knowing nod. There’s nothing in there but our lunch!

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How I Learned To Focus: Stop Multi-tasking

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Do you ever have that feeling that the world just moves too fast?

Don’t get me wrong, I think that Technology is great but there are days when I feel that I am surgically attached to my phone and am a constantly relapsing Facebook addict. Do you know what I mean?

I was talking to a friend of mine a little while back via Skype. She had her laptop on the kitchen bench while she was cooking. She was also answering text messages every now and then on her phone and shouting out help to her 7 year old who was doing homework at the kitchen table …. and this seemed perfectly normal to me until I really stopped to think about it.

What’s going on?

When did our lives become this mass multi-tasking operation? Who says that we have to be a master of all things and available for action 24/7?

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Bye Bye Bat Wings: Seven Great Arm Toning Exercises

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I need to clear something up.

It’s about something that really annoys me.

I was minding my own business in a very well known coffee shop enjoying a seasonal pumpkin beverage, when two ladies came in who had obviously just finished some sort of exercise class. I couldn’t help but overhear their conversation and they started to discuss using weights. ‘I know Crossfit is so popular, but I just don’t want to get into that whole weight-lifting thing’ one lady said as her companion nodded vigorously, ‘I mean, who wants to look all veiny like Arnold Schwarzenegger?’

And that right there is my problem.

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New Mindset: New You. How Fight Club Can Change Your Life.

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I used to hate Mondays. No, I mean, REALLY hate Mondays. Actually it wasn’t just Mondays, I used to get that sinking feeling during Sunday evenings too. I just couldn’t seem to get my start-of-the-week sparkle on. Do you know what I’m talking about? It is a truly miserable feeling and a terrible way to start your week.

Then something changed.

I watched the movie Fight Club.

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The Ultimate Core Workout

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So you’ve heard it all before. Core strength is the new ‘in thing’. Unless you can hold your stomach muscles tight for 48 hours while balancing a pineapple on your head, you just don’t have ‘core stability’. But what is this elusive ‘core stability’ and how do you get it?

Let me tell you a little secret. I’ve spent years looking for the right exercise class. I’ve done some pretty wild and weird stuff in my time. I think Zumba was probably the most terrifying for those around me (sorry classmates) closely followed by aerobic streetdance (eek!) but there is one form of exercise that I have returned to time and time again. A tried and tested friend, if you would.

I’m always looking for something to tighten my core muscles. I honestly think that my abs can smell weakness and it’s like I’m just one Chinese take-away from a pouch a momma kangaroo would be proud of. I get slightly irritated though, by the hype for core workouts.

It seems to me that all of the core workouts come out of the closet big time around May. ‘Get a beach body’, “get bikini-ready’, ‘tone-up for Summer’; I’m sure you’ve read similar headlines countless times. But what if you want a toned body all year round? Looking good and wearing the clothes you want to wear isn’t seasonal. This brings me back to my favorite form of exercise. You can do it at home, you don’t need special equipment and if done correctly, it has an incredible success rate.

Intrigued? Want to know my secret weapon? I thought so, here it is:

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Learn How To Set Goals And Stick To Them

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Goals are tricky little suckers aren’t they?

Somewhere between the household chores and driving the kids around and work and visiting family and friends; somewhere in there, you have hopes and dreams but they always seem a little out of reach. You can’t quite focus on them and so instead they sit in your peripheral vision, disappearing like cloud castles in the air.

I was having dinner at a friend’s house a while ago and it was the point in the evening when everyone has had too much wine and too much dessert. You know what I’m talking about. That time when a relaxed, winey stillness comes over the conversation and you finally get past the small talk and into the good stuff.

‘I always wanted to travel’ my friend said (to no-one in particular.) This got my attention as I have lived in 6 different countries since the age of twenty one.

‘Why haven’t you?’ I asked.

And then it came. The golden reply I could see from a mile away: 

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Mindful Eating: Breaking The Emotional Cycle

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BINGE EAT > REGRET > REPEAT

Sound familiar? 

Picture this >>>

You’ve been good all day. You’ve eaten healthily. You did some exercises this morning. You said no to cake at lunchtime and you are determined to keep on driving when you see the Starbucks sign as you leave work.

Then you get home.

And it all goes wrong.

You are not alone.

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How To Make The Perfect Healthy Smoothie

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At first glance, the smoothie seems like the perfect alternative to a high calorie snack doesn’t it? It’s packed with fruit or veggies, it’s a drink rather than solid food and it’s sometimes green. Even the word smoothie sounds good when you say it. It just rolls off the tongue in a velvety way. Try it. Smooooooothie. See. I told you!

Well before you get all over-excited and carried away by the smoothie train, I have a word of caution my little healthster. Smoothies are only healthy if the ingredients they are made with are healthy.  It might sound obvious, but believe it or not, people often miss that point.

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