The Power of Positive Thinking

Are you a glass half-full or a glass half-empty kinda person?

If you’ve read any of my previous posts you will know that I often treat my blog like the confessional box. My confession for today …and I’m going to whisper it … is … although I’m a life coach, I can sometimes be very negative.

There, I said it.

And now I feel terrible.

You see how that works? Negative thoughts and feelings attract and create more negative feelings. The Law of Attraction is real which is actually a massive relief because applying it’s principles is how you get out of your negative vibe and into a positive one.

This is a lesson I learned from my dishwasher yesterday. Yes, I said dishwasher … the Universe works in mysterious ways.

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The Three Negative Forms of Anger And How To Manage Them

It’s good to get angry.

Are you surprised by that statement? Don’t be.

Anger is a primal reaction to something you feel is wrong or harmful. It can play an important role in your defense mechanism and can also motivate you to take positive action. Everyone gets angry sometimes and it is not only normal but useful too. It is perfectly possible for anger to be a positive energy when it is controlled, natural and channeled positively.

But what happens when anger isn’t used positively?

Feelings of anger can vary in their intensity from mild frustration to extreme aggression. How one person reacts to a certain situation may be completely different from the way someone else reacts. When the form of anger and/or reaction to it becomes abnormal it can become damaging to your body, relationships, self-esteem, work life and health.

Whether you are reading this because you feel that your relationship with anger is out of step or because you want to help someone close to you, I’m here to tell you that anger can be managed.

I’m going to say that again.

ANGER CAN BE MANAGED

There a number of strategies you can use to manage your feelings to a level that is acceptable to yourself and others. I’m a firm believer in the idea that if something isn’t working you don’t need to throw it away and give up, you just need the right tools to fix it. That’s why I love my job as a life coach. I’m here to empower you and give you the tools you need.

THE THREE NEGATIVE FORMS OF ANGER

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EXCESSIVE DESTRUCTIVE ANGER (EDA)

SUPPRESSED ANGER / ANGER AVOIDANCE (SA)

HOLDING ON TO ANGER / INABILITY TO RELEASE ANGER / LATENT ANGER (LA)

 

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How To Make A Vision Board

I am a natural born cynic.

I have been pretty skeptical of anything too ‘out there’ in the past but I am also the survivor of an acrimonious divorce and I can say with complete conviction that there’s nothing quite like a life-changing event to both broaden your mind and sharpen your focus. I’ve been using visualization and manifestation for some time now and the idea of a vision board makes perfect sense to me.

If you feel uneasy with the idea of visualization and find it all a bit woo-woo I get it … But I’d like to make you think again.

Hear me out.

PSSST … I NEED TO TELL YOU A SECRET …

The Law of Attraction is a philosophy based on the idea that like attracts like. Positive thoughts attract positive outcomes and similarly negative thoughts attract negative outcomes. Rhonda Byrne wrote about this in her wonderful bestselling novel The Secret and following this dream/vision boards have become incredibly popular.

It isn’t a new concept though.

I’ve been using visual mind mapping techniques  for around twenty years and I know I’m not the only one. I used this method as a teacher with my special needs visual learners to help them access the curriculum. I have a close friend who has always used mind mapping techniques in corporate meetings to set company targets. I have also used visual mapping and collaging to set and manifest my goals.

The concept of vision boards has been somewhat hijacked of late however. Groups have been springing up everywhere, cutting and pasting with all their might and numerous articles have been written about how to create the perfect vision board. Unfortunately, I am hearing time and time again that vision boards are not working. This is disappointing and frustrating for a lot of people who thought they were getting what they needed.

I have to tell you that a lot of what I have read, heard and seen about vision boards is total trash. If you think that just sticking pictures onto a piece of paper is going to change your life you have been misled.

I’m sorry.

It’s a harsh truth, but it’s a truth nonetheless.

Creating a vision board is a process. It is not an intellectual exercise or just a pleasant craft activity.  It requires  thought, intention and an open spirit. It requires  you to be all in.

Are you all in?

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Finally! A Cardio Workout You Can Do At Home

The gym and I are not friends.

I’ve tried to make the relationship work believe me. I’ve bought expensive memberships, I’ve squeezed myself into hideous lycra outfits that fit in all the wrong places. I’ve tried to learn how the machines work. I even booked myself into a class once. It was Zumba and  I’m glad no-one had the presence of mind to film my performance and put it on Youtube because I can say with 100% conviction that if they had, I’d be viral by now.

It’s not good.

You know what though? I’m at the stage when I don’t care. I’m prepared to let the gym be my ‘one that got away’. It’s not me it’s you, gym. You’re boring, you’re full of show-offs and you cost SO much money.

VIVA LA REVOLUTION!

If you’re with me on this one I have a solution to our gym problem. I’ve come up with a cardio workout you can do at home in the comfort of your very own living room/bedroom/wherever!

The beauty of a flexible do-it-anywhere-workout is that it gives you freedom. A home exercise program can be performed at any time of day. If your schedule doesn’t allow you to get out to the gym early in the morning – it’s not a problem. Maybe you have small children and you only have a narrow window of nap time in which to exercise – this is perfect. What if you’re a night owl and you feel like exercising at 10 pm? No worries – your home never closes! It’s also free and you can wear whatever you like. No need to dress to impress when your only spectator is your dog!

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Why I Never Make New Year’s Resolutions Anymore

 

When it comes to making lame New Year’s Resolutions I deserve an award.

I’ve come up with some really spectacular examples in my time from the oh-so-predictable; (exercise more) to the ridiculous; (eat less cheese), yes in 2009 that really was high on my agenda – don’t ask!

My confession this week is that I’ve never kept a single one of my New Year’s resolutions.

Not. One.

Ever.

The problem is that deep down I don’t believe that New Year’s Resolutions really work and here’s why.

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Having A Bad Day? It’s Your Own Fault

I’m having a bad week.

I updated my website and lost my two latest blog posts and a whole page of stuff I was working on. Hours of writing and research gone in an instant.

If you want to read my blog post: Six Smart Tips To Enjoying Stress Free Holidays, forget it, it’s lost in the interweb ether somewhere. Want to know Why Zoning Out Is Important? Well you can’t – that blog post doesn’t exist anymore.

You know that horrible sick feeling you get when something has gone completely and catastrophically wrong? That’s how I felt. For a few moments I wanted to throw things at the wall and then curl up on my bed eating cheesecake … basically an adult tantrum.

But I didn’t.  And here’s why.

I read about something really interesting recently called the 90-10 percent rule and it gave me a huge wake-up call. This rule relies on the assumption that out of all the things that happen in your life on a daily basis, you only really have control of 10%.

Think about that for a minute.

Here’s a story.

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6 Reasons Why Your Stomach Is Bloated

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What is the one question every woman with belly bloat dreads hearing?

If you suffer from stomach bloating, you will instantly know the answer to this question.

Let me tell you a story.

I used to regularly watch my son at his tennis lesson. One particular time, I’d met a friend for lunch and we were late to the lesson so we had to stand by the side as all of the benches were taken. I was chatting away to my friend when all of a sudden I felt a tug at my elbow. It was a woman about the same age as me and she was pointing at her seat. “Would you like to sit down’ she said. I was kinda confused. I declined her kind offer and explained that I was with my friend and we were happy to stand. ‘Oh, ok, I just thought I’d ask since you are pregnant’ she replied.

What?

Seriously?

I looked at my friend and then back at the woman. ‘I’m not pregnant’ I replied.

And there you have it. How to ruin someone’s day with one sentence. On behalf of my fellow women belly-bloat sufferers I would like to state something for the record. If you are a serial pregnancy-asker, please stop. Don’t ask unless you are 100% sure. Don’t offer us your seat, don’t whisper ‘when is it due’ or ‘congratulations’ with a wink and please, please do not pat our tummies with a knowing nod. There’s nothing in there but our lunch!

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How I Learned To Focus: Stop Multi-tasking

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Do you ever have that feeling that the world just moves too fast?

Don’t get me wrong, I think that Technology is great but there are days when I feel that I am surgically attached to my phone and am a constantly relapsing Facebook addict. Do you know what I mean?

I was talking to a friend of mine a little while back via Skype. She had her laptop on the kitchen bench while she was cooking. She was also answering text messages every now and then on her phone and shouting out help to her 7 year old who was doing homework at the kitchen table …. and this seemed perfectly normal to me until I really stopped to think about it.

What’s going on?

When did our lives become this mass multi-tasking operation? Who says that we have to be a master of all things and available for action 24/7?

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Bye Bye Bat Wings: Seven Great Arm Toning Exercises

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I need to clear something up.

It’s about something that really annoys me.

I was minding my own business in a very well known coffee shop enjoying a seasonal pumpkin beverage, when two ladies came in who had obviously just finished some sort of exercise class. I couldn’t help but overhear their conversation and they started to discuss using weights. ‘I know Crossfit is so popular, but I just don’t want to get into that whole weight-lifting thing’ one lady said as her companion nodded vigorously, ‘I mean, who wants to look all veiny like Arnold Schwarzenegger?’

And that right there is my problem.

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New Mindset: New You. How Fight Club Can Change Your Life.

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I used to hate Mondays. No, I mean, REALLY hate Mondays. Actually it wasn’t just Mondays, I used to get that sinking feeling during Sunday evenings too. I just couldn’t seem to get my start-of-the-week sparkle on. Do you know what I’m talking about? It is a truly miserable feeling and a terrible way to start your week.

Then something changed.

I watched the movie Fight Club.

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